The manosphere is obsessed with ‘feminine energy’. Be careful what you wish for

If you’ve been lucky enough to miss the latest instalment of moronic hot takes offered up by conventionally attractive people with large online followings, I envy and salute you, but buckle up.

Last week, Australian podcaster Chris Griffin, who describes himself as a “deep thinker” and has an audience of over 1 million followers, told listeners he doesn’t want his partner to work unless she wants to because he’s in the enviable position of being able to financially support them both. On the surface, that seems like a nice premise, except it quickly became apparent that his generosity is very much conditional, and very much rooted in gendered gripes.

In the podcast episode, Griffin said, “If you feel the need to go and work to make money, and then you come home, and you’re complaining about your day when we don’t need you to make money because we’re sorted; if we’ve got four hours to spend in the afternoon and I ask you ‘how was your day today, babe?’ I want your eyes to light up with excitement.”

He added that men need to come home after a long day of work and be greeted by what he and other manosphere-adjacent influencers have dubbed “feminine energy”. This, according to Griffin, “is the calm, it’s the harmony, it’s the peace and love that a man that’s got a busy life, that’s chasing his dreams, needs when he’s trying to wind down.”

But how do women have their emotional needs met, you may wonder? Enter “hot girl walks”, which are identical to regular women walking and talking, but hotter and with more expensive activewear. “I would love my partner to go on a hot girl walk with her friends every day,” Griffin said. “She gets this feminine energy, they get to talk their shit, and then they get to have a bit of excitement about their day.”