From a foster placement that became family to the systems that support carers behind the
scenes, Wesley Missionβs foster care program shows how stability can shape a lifetime.
Sponsored by Wesley Mission
Michelle Bateman
Any time Alice has a big piece of news to share or something weighing on her mind, the first person she calls is her mum, Carol. Sometimes itβs practical, like a work decision or help finding a rental property. Other times itβs just to talk something through. On its own, this isnβt unusual but for Alice, itβs a habit shaped over years of consistency. She came into Carolβs care when she was three, with no certainty about how long she would stay. Now aged 25, their relationship has become more than routine β itβs something they both treasure.
βIn primary school, I could instantly tell that my family dynamic was different to everyone elseβs,β says Alice. βBut I never once felt this family wasnβt mine and I was just here waiting to move on. No matter what happened tomorrow, this was my family.β
Carol and her husband Phil have been foster parents to many children over the past two decades, including long-term, short-term and respite placements. In addition to Alice and her two biological brothers β who were all fostered as toddlers and later adopted by the couple β Carol and Phil also have three older biological children and two other long-term foster children aged nine and 12. Add 10 grandkids into the mix and itβs a big, busy blended family.
βIβm an only child and my husband was brought up that way as his siblings are much older,β says Carol. βBut Iβve always had a dream about a big house with kids everywhere and me looking after them.β
A growing need for foster carers
Julie Harris oversees Wesley Missionβs carer recruitment and training across the Hunter and Central Coast regions. She says thereβs a βdire need for carers because the volume of people putting their hand up has decreased.β
In 2025, 752 children and young people were supported in foster care by Wesley Mission and a further three were adopted. The organisation puts a strong emphasis on keeping families together where possible and keeps children connected to their birth family when theyβre in care.
Prospective foster families attend mandatory training on maintaining these connections and on providing trauma-informed care for children and young people, many of whom have had exposure to drug and alcohol abuse, domestic violence and mental health issues.
βOne of the biggest misconceptions is when someone thinks that because theyβve successfully raised their own children, they can use the same techniques with a foster child,β says Harris. βA carer like Carol is quick to identify that sheβs parented all her foster children very differently from the way that she parented her own children. And in fact, very differently from the way that she grandparents her grandchildren.β
Foster parents and children also receive ongoing support from Wesley Mission, including a caseworker, access to counselling, speech therapy and physiotherapy, and help with appointments, school enrolments and taking children to visit their birth families.
βItβs very important to have this backup, you wouldnβt be able to do it on your own,β says Carol of her network. Even with her years of experience, she still calls her caseworker or other carers for advice when she needs it.
βThese kids have suffered traumas and there will be behavioural implications to that. But if you can ride through that, itβs worth it to break the cycle. When you stick with these kids and show them family and how to love, you see them change. Itβs been our experience to see the kids go from being so scared and not trusting anyone to becoming happy and loving kids.β
Alice is one of them. In the past few years, sheβs moved into her own apartment and has followed in Carolβs footsteps to work in early childcare. βI always tell people my mumβs the best mum ever and I always want to tell my life story, so everyone knows how amazing my family is and how proud I am of them.β
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